Things I wish I knew at 15... [Part 1]
Thursday, December 8, 2011 at 02:14PM 
The distant future, the year 2000... A bright-eyed and bushy eye-browed 15-year old version of me was venturing into high school.
If Doc could show up with the DeLorean and take me back to that time to talk to myself or my friends... What would I say?
Probably first, pluck your eyebrows and stop putting bleach in your hair... Then I'd think of some more substantial advice. This blog will be the first in a series of (hopefully) interesting thoughts on how it feels 10 years later.
So... Part 1.
Boy Attention - Don't let it rule you. A huge struggle in the life of a 15-year old girl is not knowing how to deal with the first time a boy gives you attention. "How do I act? What do I say?"... OR on the reverse: "Why does no one like me?" "Will he notice me?"
It's normal and natural to be affected by these situations... and it's inevitable. But pay attention to this major red flag: When that attention (or lack of) causes you to change something about yourself and your standards. Now, this is going to be extremely difficult to not do... but you have to try as hard as you can!
I'll never forget when my best friend changed from being an Alabama fan to being an Auburn fan just because the boy she liked was an Auburn fan. Of course that's a silly example, but that was in 3rd grade and was the first time I saw it happen. I was so mad! (Roll Tide) As the years past, I saw friends change much more serious parts of themselves for a guy. Please! Don't do it!
The 10-years-later benefit? You meet someone who loves you for everything that makes you YOU! Also, most of your temporary, fair-weather friends are gone and you have friendships that support all of your You-ness. “You were born an original. Don't die a copy.” ― John Mason
Ginger
Reader Comments (3)
i wish i never let the attention of boys dictate my life. it's hard bcuz I went thru a fat stage and had bad acne. then I grew taller and in track lost the weight and boys started noticing me. im trying not to think I get my self worth from a boy. they like you one day then the next they move on to someone else. still learning.
Every girl is beautiful but she has to believe it and not count on boys to tell her. :)
Kelsey - You are so right. It is even more difficult to deal with the attention when it's all of a sudden... especially when a girl is coming from a place of insecurity. I also had the bad acne and went through the same thing!
Sveta - I agree! We must have our own self-esteem and be secure in our Creator. :)
Luke 12:7 And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.